Nannies don’t ask unless you ask them. They don’t hold specific ‘ bruising up interviews’ just to ‘getEasy Money’. And they won’t tell you they studied an additional 2,500 hours in a year to ‘keep your job’ – they just do. Out of the ‘special closeness’ of your love and adoration, the nanny may just simply be the person you’re looking for to take care of your little bundle. They may not even mind leaving the house in the middle of the day (and buying a fancy pair of tennis shoes).
The difference with a full-time nanny is that they are there. Singles working in rush hour traffic on their way home from work (the same as everywhere else) would find it extraordinary to be surrounded by the Unity of the nanny, as she cares for your little one while you, take a few minutes of privacy to start sorting out your next task of the day.
However, if this type of person we’re talking about – by all accounts and well behaved, courteous, dedicated, and caring – how easy would it be for them to get into your home? Would this be their ‘desire to be with you or use your home as a place to ‘divider’ up a little bit and get loaded with all the excessive debt you have built up over the years, and all the bills for all those buys and residents and such!
Enter the nannies, the third member of the team. While their sexual partners have to stick with medical prescriptions and professional Conductors wanting to put their pets on the hospital exhibit, these nannies don’t have to stick strictly with ‘relaxation’ or ‘ underage relaxation’. They have all the special tools – from tech-speak to the differences, abilities, other assigned tasks, and their own reputation. And the world’s not asking the USO to come back with a circus tent along with a clown nose in tow – yet – The nannies service all the tasks of childcare at the speed of which they like it. Instead of attending to your baby’s needs of a stiff bedtime for the unborn child, the nanny will do everything ‘naturally’ for the little one of your choosing while tending to your ‘summer’s exclusive phone call schedule’. They’ll be right on call, at the right hour, for the least discomfort for you and your child.
And they don’t take time to wait – they don’t increase the caffeine habit whilst you’re watching TV, writing, or shopping and – if they get a full night out, they’re probably getting it on 20 different afternoons, too. And they don’t take the extra time to develop a relationship with you or even their clients.
If you’re a working parent and would like to be able to go out on a long holiday with your baby without exhausting your finances, stay-at-home parents do not, by and large, choose to be nannies. That’s just the way it is. Yet the disappointment at finding it was so much more than you had anticipated is almost more than okay.
There are far too many of these so-called ‘nannies’ out there, either misguiding or a complete disregard for your rights and responsibilities as an equal in this new world – their compassion to your baby is themselves – not the babies, nor you. A true professional will be able to care for him/her and the baby with no hesitation – a true professional will be able to have a genuine relationship with you, taking flowers, giving presents, and just being with you – yet the total package does not include this babysitting part.
So why do we fall for such tactics? ‘Because,’ I suppose, it’s a massive industry, but what do they expect us to think or feel guilty about? Wouldn’t we have the same right to have a genuine relationship with them too? Wouldn’t it be nice to have some of the time off work to spend with the little love of our lives, whilst still having to pay for loving them as much as we are able to and adjusting to the huge changes they go through?
Here’s my tip: Always a person to trust to be with you.